Don’t Fit the Mold

I have had a lot of time to think this summer. I’ve spent a lot of my time reflecting on the people in my past and my present.

I want to take a moment to share with you, the importance of finding people who love you for who you are.

I never really felt like myself in high school. I wanted to be noticed but unnoticed. I wanted a lot of friends, but at the same time I didn’t. I was stuck in between who I wanted to be and who I was. I never felt in place. I was like an awkward puzzle piece that was just shoved into an empty space. It was uncomfortable and damaging.

When college rolled around, I had a hard time holding on to who I was and who I was supposed to be. I started making new friends who made me feel different. I didn’t have to try. I didn’t have to give myself a pep talk before they came over. I didn’t hesitate to do things with them, and most importantly, they never made me feel bad about myself.


I spent too many years forcing myself into a stereotype. I forced myself into a pair of shoes that just would not fit. When I finally broke free of the suffocating mold I’d put myself in, my world became so much bigger. I remember breaking down into tears because I felt so free. That freedom came from the people in my life who encouraged me and loved me for who I was. They saw my passions and my strengths and begged me to refine them.


I wouldn’t be where I am today if it weren’t for some of the most amazing people in my life. They have helped me grow so much in my last two years in school and I owe them everything.


So what am I saying? I’m asking you to evaluate the relationships in your life. If your friends make you feel uncomfortable, unsafe, uneasy, or unreasonably stressed, then it might be time to find new friends. You want people in your life who lift you up, not bring you down, or bring others down. Life is too short to waste your time trying to fit into a mold that is never going to work. You’re not water or gelatin. You’re a human being, with bones, and organs, and non-adjustable things.

Bones break under pressure, so do people.


Do not allow people into your life that break you. You deserve more than that.


See you again,


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